How I Honor & Heal My Inner Child after Narcissistic Abuse
As an Empath, Healer, and Divine Feminine
I now give myself permission to be angry. I allow myself to throw temper tantrums, break things, curse up a storm, and cry nonstop. As a child, I wasn’t allowed to express my feelings without shame or worry about how they would affect others. I wasn’t allowed to look weak because “big girls don’t cry.”
As a grown, enlightened, and awakened Divine Feminine, I now allow myself to feel everything. There is no shame in my anger, sadness, or joy. I no longer worry about what others think or how my emotions might hurt someone who has hurt me. Crying doesn’t make me weak; my tears give me the strength to push through the trials and tribulations life throws at me as I hold steadfast to my life path.
I grew up with a single parent who was a narcissist, an alcoholic, poor, and had little to no emotional intelligence. I was my own parent because she didn’t know how to be one. She was barely present because she “had to keep a roof over our heads.” I didn’t get to be a child, so I don’t have many childhood memories. The mind is a wondrous thing. I spent so much time nurturing my mother and siblings that any memories of fun or being a kid are slim.
As Divine beings, angels on earth, and starseeds, we are pre-destined for hardship and pain from day one. The goal of everything around us is to extinguish our light so we don’t do the work, magic, and healing we came into this world for. Not everyone makes it out; some get smothered and can’t find the light. But for those who do, it’s a hard journey, but I promise you, it’s worth it. Narcissists condition us not to do the inner work, not to see who we truly are, and to let them drain our energy. At the end of the day, how could we focus on ourselves and our needs?
To reach a certain level of enlightenment and awakening, we must do the work of parenting and nurturing our inner child, who was so neglected in our youth. We must acknowledge and recognize the inner child who felt almost invisible, in the way, and like a burden. Understanding her or him holds significant influence over how we process our emotions and behaviors. We must create a safe space for her or him to be explored and connected with. I do this by allowing my creative side to come out through my work, creating colorful and bright personalized materials. I also let her come out when I’m with my kids, making jokes, wrestling, or just coloring with them. We must practice self-compassion, treating ourselves with the same kindness, love, and understanding we would extend to any child. Learn to be gentle with yourself, accept that mistakes are a part of life, and forgive yourself for any mistakes. It’s okay; we are only human and allowed to make mistakes.
As I’ve embraced my spiritual path and growth, it takes a lot of mindfulness to remember her (my inner child). I can get so caught up in this thing called life and living in the 3D that, when things become hard, I fall back into old patterns that do not honor her and what she went through so that I can be the Divine Feminine that I am today. I have daily practices that help bring me back, like journaling. I write about things that bring me joy, what I expect of love, how love should feel, and I constantly reassure myself that everything will be okay and that everything happens for a reason. I also thank her for her strength and listen to see if she has anything she wants or needs to say. Daily meditation and self-love affirmations are also a must. Meditation helps me ground myself and pulls me away from the present moment to heal and listen to what my body, mind, and soul need.
I have also established boundaries with everyone in my life. If someone only wants to be in my life for their own benefit, their access to me is limited or almost non-existent. Yes, it’s lonely, but it keeps negativity out of my life and keeps me balanced. I no longer aim to please everyone; I am only accessible to those who bring stability, positivity, joy, and excitement into my life so I may do the same for them.As a child, guilt and shame were reinforced every time the adults in my life felt embarrassed or thought I brought shame upon us. This was a heavy burden to carry and not mine to bear. It was their shame and embarrassment they projected onto me because they couldn’t bear it. Now, as a woman in her mid-thirties, guilt and shame have no space in my life.
I live my life with intention, always pure, filled with light and love, and honor everything my inner child went through so I could be who I am today—an enlightened, unconditionally loving, awakened being of the Divine.
Thank you for taking the time to read about this journey. If my story resonates with you and you seek support on your healing journey, I invite you to connect with me at Healing with Light, Love & Luna. As a transformational trauma and life coach, I specialize in helping others heal from narcissistic abuse and reclaim their lives. Together, we can navigate the path to healing and transformation, empowering you to live a life filled with light, love, and peace.
Alice M. Luna, BSBA
Transformational Healing & Life Coach at healingw-lightlovenluna.com
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