Escaping Narcissism as an Empath and Healing My Mother Wound
by Blog Contributor: Alice Saldana of Healing with Light, Love & Luna
Taking care of my mother became my identity, and in the process, I lost myself. While my empathic nature remained, my ambition to help others waned. I was burnt out from years of caregiving. My mother’s drunken stupors, numerous boyfriends, and the countless nights spent comforting her after traumatic experiences drained me. This continued well into my high school years until I finally left home at 18, pregnant and married.
For years, I harbored deep resentment and anger towards my mother. However, through my healing journey—which involved spiritual advisors, meditation, shadow work, and inner child work—I found it within myself to forgive her. It was an unexpected moment of clarity during a phone call. I told my mother I forgave her for the childhood she stole from me and the hardships I endured.
Recently, I accepted that my life experiences shaped me into the Divine Feminine I am today. As a spiritual person with gifts of empathy and more, I now believe we choose our parents before coming into this world. I chose her, and she, in turn, influenced the life I led. If not for the struggles, abuse, and neglect, I wouldn’t be the healer I am today—a strong empath, a breaker of curses, and a devoted mother to four wonderful and gifted children. Our trials give us the depth of understanding needed to help others heal.
Healing my mother wound was a significant challenge. For years, I questioned how she could have treated me that way. But viewing it from a spiritual perspective, I realized she did the best she could with what she knew. She, too, had a hard life and lacked understanding of love. By forgiving her, I released the pain and resentment that hindered my spiritual growth and blocked my blessings.
Letting go wasn’t just for her peace of mind; it was for my own. By forgiving her, I unlocked new levels of spiritual ascension and embraced the gifts meant for me. Now, I can fully step into my role as a healer and help others find their paths to healing. Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I hope it has resonated with you and provided some comfort and insight into your own journey. If you find yourself struggling with similar challenges and are seeking support, I invite you to connect with me at Healing with Light, Love & Luna (www.healingw-lightlovenluna.com). As a coach specializing in healing from narcissistic abuse, I am dedicated to helping others find their strength, reclaim their lives, and embrace their true selves. Together, we can navigate the path to healing and transformation, empowering you to live a life filled with light, love, and peace. You can also follow me on Instagram or TikTok for more information on healing from narcissistic abuse and to learn more about what we offer.
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